“When you focus on something that is important, something else will be left undone” The One Thing
Are you trying to find that perfect balance of work, life, and success? For a long time, I did too. So many of us spend time trying to work enough to get that promotion or increase our business while at the same time balance family, workouts, quiet time, and a myriad of other things that we enjoy doing outside of our work. The reality is, if you are going to succeed in any area of life you will need to be out of balance in other areas of your life . Because of this, I’m going to share with you 5 ways to succeed in the work life balance game. And yes, it is a game.
1. You will need to learn to say NO
Have you ever spent time trying to please everyone only to find out that you end up pleasing no one? I spent years focusing on the urgent instead of focusing on the important. My priority was trying to please everyone and keep the balance. In the process, I made myself miserable. However, my life changed when my focus switched to my important priorities and I learned to say no to other things that were not in line with my priorities. Try saying no to more things and see how much more you can say yes to.
2. Learn to get Less Sleep – Sometimes
In order to do all the things you want to do, there will be things that you will need to give up. Unfortunately, something that many of us give up is sleep. We’ve all heard you need to get 8 hours of sleep every night. There are some reasons that affect your endocrine system, but I will get into that in another article. For me, I get up early each day to write and post quotes to various social media channels. This is the best time of the day because my thoughts are the clearest. I also choose go to bed early in order to get an adequate amount of sleep each day. Depending on the project I am working on, I will sacrifice sleep, but not all the time. I would not advise going too long without adequate sleep. I’m sure you’ve experienced the health and mental effects of extended periods of time with little to no sleep. Deprive yourself too long, and you’ll experience some unwelcome changes in your health and overall well-being. In essence, you will be forced to be out of balance. I almost wrote, and not by your choosing, but not monitoring your health and sleep is your choice and so are the outcomes that go along with it. However, there will be times that you will need to burn that midnight oil in order to accomplish something high on your list of priorities.
3. Take Responsibility
Often you hear people saying how they are always behind or just can’t get ahead. As mentioned previously, part of the reason is that they have not learned to say no. The other part is that many often look to someone else or circumstance to blame for their lack of time. At the end of the day, you are responsible for your time, actions, and thoughts. Don’t give away your power to someone else by becoming a victim. Take responsibility for your failures and your success.
4. Set Boundaries
Setting boundaries goes hand in hand with saying no to some things, but it also goes further. What you allow into your life will affect your thoughts. Your thoughts and how you react to the energy around you have a great deal to do with your productivity. Your productivity will determine how much time you waste and ultimately your overall balance. Protect your thoughts by learning to focus on your priorities and why you are doing what you are doing. Focusing on your WHY will help you set a very strong boundary. You will have people that will try to hold you back or stop you because they are unhappy and want you to come along for the ride. Stay off their bus and put mental barriers against the trolls that are looking to stop you.
5. Don’t Let Guilt Rule You
You know the feeling, you are doing something you know is important but you feel guilty because you could or should be doing something else. This is especially true with parents. Children are masters at guilting their parents. I’ve seen this in the corporate world where managers feel guilty about not spending enough time with an employee. Feeling guilty is a waste of time. If you’re a manager, your employees don’t need you to be available all the time. Do set aside time to nurture and help them succeed. The same goes with other areas of your life. However, if you are going to be successful you are going to have to say no to some things in order to say yes to others. You cannot feel guilty about it. Stay true to your priorities and live guilt free.
So you see, achieving work life balance is a game. You have to learn the rules of the game and understand it will take some sacrifices. Know that you will not always win every point. In the end, work life balance isn’t really about balance, it is about understanding and being clear on what your priorities are and focusing on those priorities. The more you play the game the greater your confidence will be and the more opportunities you will have to win the game of work life balance.
Which of these ways can you apply today to win the work life balance game? Let us know by commenting below or reply on Facebook or Twitter.
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Author: Bryan Oliver
Bryan Oliver is the founder of www.flight4success and is a strategic leader, success coach, and best-selling author. Bryan coaches on confidence, mindset, and habit creation to help you reach your dreams.